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I Who Have Never Known Men by Jacqueline Harpman
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it was amazing

If you enjoy wondering if you’ll ever feel hope again, this book's for you. I Who Have Never Known Men makes The Road by Cormac McCarthy feel like a stroll in a park. The premise is straightforward enough. 40 women, caged in a bunker for reasons no one’s sharing.

This isn’t the kind of book that’s here to comfort. It’s dark, bleak, terrifying, yet also profound. It made me sit in discomfort and confront survival, freedom, and what it even means to live.

The silence about what happened to the world is louder than any dystopian world-building ever could be. And at first, I wanted the explanations, the “why,” the rules of this world. But the more I read, the more I realised that the silence is the whole point of the story.

If you’re on the hunt for a happily ever after, you might want to look elsewhere, because this book doesn’t do redemption or catharsis or answers. What we do get is a meditation on what’s left when everything we think makes us human such as love, connection and hope, is stripped away.

By the time I turned the last page, I was left reeling and grappling with the enormity of my own insignificance. It’s frustrating, haunting and unforgettable.

Highly recommend if you’re a masochistic reader, like me.

♦️♦️♦️

Sometimes I swing from fantasy to soul-crushing dystopian books to keep me grounded.
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Reading Progress

February 2, 2023 – Shelved
February 4, 2025 – Started Reading
February 8, 2025 – Finished Reading

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message 1: by Darla (new)

Darla Enjoy the change, Esta. It will make you an even sharper reader, for sure.🤩


message 2: by Angela (new) - added it

Angela Happy reading beautiful! 🩷


Erin One of my all time favorites. Quick question: I read this book more than twenty years ago, but I see it’s become really popular in the last year or so. Any idea why, like did someone have it as part of their book club or something?


message 4: by Akankshya (new) - added it

Akankshya Aaah I need your take on this one!! Happy reading Esta love ❤️


message 5: by Krystal (new)

Krystal Changing up genres is a great way to avoid the dreaded slump. Hope you enjoy this one! 🩷🖤


aimee (aimeecanread) And I love that for you!! Happy reading <3


message 7: by Fairuz ᥫ᭡. (new)

Fairuz ᥫ᭡. Omg, love the range! 😂 Hope this one keeps you hooked! 💖 Happy reading, can’t wait to hear what you think!


message 8: by linda (new)

linda and you are so real for that


Esta Darla wrote: "Enjoy the change, Esta. It will make you an even sharper reader, for sure.🤩"

Thanks so much Darla, I'm such a sucker for dystopia 🥰


fadheela ♡ (mid-terms ia) lmao you're so real for that!!😭🤍


message 11: by Maddy ✨ (new) - added it

Maddy ✨   ~The Verse Vixen {AFK brb} It's in my tbr for ages!! Let me knw how this one goes 😭!!


nina ʚïɞ (hiatus) lmao i love it! keeps things interesting 🤭 hope you enjoy this one my lovely Esta bb!! happy reading! 💗🌸


message 13: by Jamie (new)

Jamie I keep seeing this one on Goodreads, but I just now read the description and ... nope. I can't do soul-crushing, ha ha. Hope it's fantastic, Esta!


message 14: by Ian (new) - added it

Ian Payton I swerved a book-club cycle where this had been picked. Soul-crushing dystopian didn't feel like my vibe at the time (I suspect there'll be a time, so I'm leaving it on the back burner). Have fun!


message 15: by Esta (new) - rated it 5 stars

Esta Angela wrote: "Happy reading beautiful! 🩷"

Thank you so much dearest Angela ❣️🧡


message 16: by Esta (new) - rated it 5 stars

Esta Erin wrote: "One of my all time favorites. Quick question: I read this book more than twenty years ago, but I see it’s become really popular in the last year or so. Any idea why, like did someone have it as par..."

So glad its one of your favourites Erin. I think it's become popular as it went viral on TikTok, I'm also assuming the political climate in the US following the election.


Youssra (semi ia) omg this book! I just stared at the wall after I finished 😭


claudia (purged my account) hope you enjoy this one and GOODLUCK<3


Christy fictional_traits Ooh - sounds like a goody!


message 20: by Clace (new)

Clace Happy reading!!


♥︎ Heather ⚔ (New House-Hiatus) Relatable. Happy reading my darling! Hope you enjoy it! 💖


Suhailah Girl...same! ♡♡♡ This is legit what I feel like I'm being torn between these days. Adding this book to my list now! Thanks, Esta!


jasmine •。ꪆৎ ˚⋅ (semi-hiatus) happy reading my girl 🤍


lami ♡ [eyes on sudan] Happy reading!


message 25: by Esta (new) - rated it 5 stars

Esta Akankshya wrote: "Aaah I need your take on this one!! Happy reading Esta love ❤️"

I fear it's going to be a gut-wrencher, Akankshya my love. A few pages in and my heart ❤️‍🩹


message 26: by Esta (new) - rated it 5 stars

Esta Krystal wrote: "Changing up genres is a great way to avoid the dreaded slump. Hope you enjoy this one! 🩷🖤"

For real Krystal, especially after just finishing my favourite fantasy book I've read so far this year (book hangover)! Thank you so much lovely!🖤


message 27: by ivy (new) - added it

ivy happiest reading esta angel!! hope you love this so much beautiful 😚😚


message 28: by Charles (new)

Charles I agree switching genres can keep things from getting stale. The blurb on this sounds very interesting and I hope you enjoy. I will look forward to your final review.!! 📕📗📘


message 29: by Marie (new)

Marie Hope it delivers ml 💗


sissi˚。౨ৎ (hiatus :( ) ahhh i love love looove this book. had me staring at the wall for three days. 5/5 experience


rei ‧₊˚✩彡 happy reading esta bb!


message 32: by Krisha (new)

Krisha Happy reading gorgeous bb 💖 I hope you adore it 😘


Persephone's Pomegranate I love love love the title. Wow. And the cover? The author went off. I hope the book is a winner, dearest Esta.


message 34: by Alyssa (new)

Alyssa Nieves Happy reading bb!! 🩷


message 35: by Dani (new)

Dani LOL I'm so with you. Happy reading babes! ☕🩵


LiL (catching up) Happy reading bbs 💝


enqi ☾⋆˚*̣̩✩ honestly same, especially with the current state of the world 😭😭😭


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Cara Happiest reading, my gorgeous Esta cutie patootie❤😘!!!!!!!! LOVE YOU SO SO MUCH😘😘!!!!!!!!!!


Maeghan &#x1f98b; HIATUS on & off Happy reading my golden light!💗✨


Halcyon (sadly in hiatus) THIS. I need your thoughts on this, my friend. I've read it and haven't found the right words to even begin to express what I feel.


ᖰhiᖱeɭia (ia) The "staying grounded" is so real omg. Happy reading! 🤍


message 42: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Oh, I can’t wait for your thoughts on this, Esta! 🧡


message 43: by Fiza (new)

Fiza · ia Happy reading angel 💞 hope you have the best time!


message 44: by Evie (new)

Evie Lol you know a book hits different when you need to spend some quality time having an existential crisis after


message 45: by Federico (last edited Feb 08, 2025 12:33AM) (new) - added it

Federico DN So intriguing! Glad you loved it Esta! Looking forward to your full review, maybe ;)


message 46: by Zana (new) - rated it 3 stars

Zana Excited to read this!


message 47: by Erin (new) - rated it 5 stars

Erin Thanks, Ezra! I’m glad you liked it as much as I do!


message 48: by Erin (new) - rated it 5 stars

Erin *Esta. Stupid autocorrect! I swear I typed it correctly!


Rosh ~catching up slowly~ You reminded me of the opening quote of Stephen King's 'Misery': "When you look into the abyss, the abyss also looks into you."
(Originally said by Nietzsche, I think.)

I hope your abyss looks at you kindly after such a devastating read, dear Esta. Looking forward to your thoughts!! 💖


message 50: by Esta (new) - rated it 5 stars

Esta aimee (aimeecanread) wrote: "And I love that for you!! Happy reading <3"

Thanks so much aimee ml! It was great, in a horrific way, lol 💛


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